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RQ - Relationship Intelligence
"Why Your RQ is more Important To Your Success and Happiness Than Your IQ".

Find out how to be "Lovesmart" in a love-retarded world!

You've probably read the stories about the large numbers of 20-and-30 something women who, like the female yuppie characters in HBO's Sex in the City assert with varying amounts of conviction that they no longer feel it's important to get married and that if they do decide to get pregnant, a sperm bank will do. In TV-land, at least since the demise of the Cosby show, it's hard to find programs that honor those old dinosaurs, committed fathers and happy marriages. Homer Simpson often seems to be the best primetime TV-land can muster.

A recent study by the National Fatherhood Initiative found that out of 102 primetime TV shows only 15 had fathers as regular, central characters. Only 4 of these 15 shows portrayed the fathers in a positive light as men who were involved with their children, offered moral guidance, were competent and made their family a priority.
In the midst of such reports, it's easy to feel overwhelmed and intimidated by these disillusioning cultural trends. But it would be a mistake to fail to notice a powerful undercurrent among significant numbers of people and key groups in our culture, who, after years of widespread confusion about love and relationships, are engaged in the earnest pursuit of what could be called "relationship intelligence."

If you are looking for power and reasons to wait, you have come to the right place! Educate yourself about your choices! Welcome to Lovesmarts.org!

	Quotes from "Unprotected: a campus psychiatrist reveals how political correctness in her profession endangers every student".
	Harvard abstinence group fights back 2 seniors rage against the random student sex machine.
	Dawn Eden: Chastity Is for Rebels Rock journalist-turned-Christian Dawn Eden speaks to Beliefnet about her discovery that sexual liberation is actually a prison.
	Lovesmart 06 Film Festival Winners “Memoirs of a Man-ho,” “Man at the Podium,” and “The Choice Game” won the top three prizes at the 2006 Lovesmart Film Festival, which was held at the AMC Cineplex in Paramus, NJ, on April 29. All of the eight competing finalists, submitted by high school students from New Jersey and around the country, address the costs of uncommitted sex or the positive value and benefits of delaying sexual involvement.

2nd Annual Healthy Marriage Summit Responses and Pictures

Americans have Complex Relationship with Marriage
When USA Today asked what the subjects of his film "March of the Penguins" have most in common with humans, director Luc Jacquet answered, "They form couples and are faithful. It's the only way they can raise the chick under extreme conditions."

RQ: Relationship Intelligence Training Seminar 2004 Responses and Pictures

"Free Teens/RQ abstinence education allows teens to explore themselves in other areas of their lives, not pertaining to sexual intercourse or sexual activities. This is an AWESOME and EDUCATIONAL program!"

"Relationship Intelligence"

If Free Sex isn't free and Safe Sex isn't all that safe, then what's left? A little noticed, but increasing trend towards committed, monogamous relationships is under way in the U.S., what could be called Relationship Intelligence.

RQ: Building It

The newly released RQ: Building Relationship Intelligence Curriculum puts forth a positive vision of healthy relationships, in four sections: Relationships, Personal Relationships, Interpersonal Relationships, and Community Leadership.

"We're Successful, and Hurt"

It's tempting to seize on success stories to say that being a child of divorce is not all that different from growing up in an intact family. These stories demonstrate that even though the most accomplished among us have weathered the losses that come with divorce, none of us wishes for the next generation to grow up the same way.

Premarital Education Could Cut Divorce Rate, Survey Finds
More couples are getting premarital education, perhaps thinking it may give their new marriages divorce protection. And new research suggests they may well be right.

The Real Deal on Love, Relationships and Marriage
The Real Deal on Love, Relationships and Marriage, three video/DVD series is a valuable new tool to help educators initiate discussions about healthy relationships, stages of intimacy, and the documented benefits of marriage.
"Why Can't Men be Monogamous?"
... a list-serve question that generated many interesting responses. See why...
Not Free Sex
We learned that sex makes you feel good, but it can kill you or make you sterile. We hear that to be happy you need to be sexy. Only losers and nerds are missing out on the fun, but then why do so many sexually active girls try to take their own lives?
Debunking Myths about Marriage.
There is a brand new recipe for a healthy life. The basic ingredients are a low-fat diet, regular exercise - and marriage.
The Impact of the WTC Attack on Families.
Matters pertaining to marriage, family, and religion - the subject matter of the RCF Project - at first seemed far removed from the September 11 disaster at the World Trade Center. There the issues were life versus death, terrorism versus principled dissent, democracy versus tyranny, the separation of religion and state versus theocracy.
Bev's Story
After doing it, the next day I would ask him- 'are we a couple?' He would always say, 'no.' Then I would ask, 'then why did we do it last night? You said we weren't going to.' Then he would say 'OK, no more.' But then we'd do it in a few weeks. I couldn't resist him, better to have a little than to have nothing. He was on my mind constantly.
Contraceptive Effectiveness?
Failure rates in preventing pregnancy over 12 months of use as reported in the Journal of the American Medical Association.
Director's Message
For the first time in twenty years, the proportion of American teens who have had sexual intercourse at least once has dropped. A five percent drop among girls has been reported by the National Center for Health Statistics. In 1995, 50% of girls between the ages of 15 to 19 had experienced intercourse compared with 55% in 1990.